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枫下家园 / 人到中年 / Quite bored here, let me ask you a question~if someone told you:
you don't *** (a verb, e.g.: look, talk, dress, or drive) like a Chinese.
how would you feel?
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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feel he is a jerk
-win(秋天的菠菜);
2011-10-19
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'feel' he is a jerk? How do you feel? by hand or by nose?
-zbeifly(不是爱风尘似被前缘误);
2011-10-19
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depends on who, when and how he made this comment.
-yoyo23(纯水有香);
2011-10-19
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ok, let me make it clear~yesterday my big boss saw me doing back-in parking and said:
Lilian, you don't drive like a Chinese!
I thought he said this because he thought it is a kind of compliment to my driving (or parking) skills, but I really feel very uncomfortable about this~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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俺有次在国内停车。。。。迅雷不及掩耳盗铃之势。。。。嗖就进去了。。。。把收费的老大爷吓一跳。。。。你big boss也是等着收费呢吗。。。。?
-tigar25(大忽悠);
2011-10-19
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he was hold a cup of coffee at that time~ Espresso~ :-)
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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巧了。。。。那看车的老大爷hold着一壶热茶当时。。。。
-tigar25(大忽悠);
2011-10-19
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i know how you feel; Do you have other chinese female colleagues?
-yoyo23(纯水有香);
2011-10-19
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yes i have, she is the only one beside me.
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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i think your boss just comparing you to most chinese female, don't think he was judging chinese. Don't feel unhappy about this, at least this can tell us that you drive very well :). I don't even dare to drive on highway yet - i am chicken :)))))
-yoyo23(纯水有香);
2011-10-19
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Should feel very uncomfortable. Your big boss is not a good man.
-wincity(红卫兵);
2011-10-19
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不用太理会。。。。
-redsky(忧伤苹果);
2011-10-19
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yeah, i did not take it seriously yesterday just simply replied: oh really? but they talked about this today in morning and i felt a little bit annoyed~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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你在这里别扭,估计他们早都忘了自己说过啥啦。。。。
-redsky(忧伤苹果);
2011-10-19
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and actually my question is: why they thought "you don't *** like a Chinese" is a kind of compliment to Chinese people? All my colleagues and bosses are very nice and polite people, i love them. I believe they don't mean to insult for sure~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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你想让俺们说啥。。。。?听你的。。。。
-tigar25(大忽悠);
2011-10-19
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just try your best pursuading me that is not a kind of discrimination please. :-(
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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俺本事不够。。。。先撤了只能。。。。
-tigar25(大忽悠);
2011-10-19
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The "Chinese" they know is an evolving concept ... and you just broke their stereotype -- one piece at at time, and we are helping them redefine that image. No need to think too much I would say.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-19
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ok, think positively, not negatively, thanks~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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笑笑就行了。比如一个在长住上海的北京人,被说不象北京人也许不反感,另一个在常驻北京的上海人,被说不象上海人,有可能不愉快。因人而异,不用太care.
-eleventen(eleven ten);
2011-10-19
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好多人曾经也说我不像北京人,我也在帮助打破对土生土长的老北京人的stereotype
-mikesmith(老猫);
2011-10-19
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well, ppl kept saying that to me, too, but i am not very sensitive about being not like a Beijingnese. but just can't explain, feel very uncomfortable for they kept saying i am not like a Chinese. :-(
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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Because you are proud of beijing a Beijing Ren, but a little bit lack of confidence on Chinese as a group in Canada.
-eleventen(eleven ten);
2011-10-19
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feel nothing. it just means a fact that you don't *** (a verb, e.g.: look, talk, dress, or drive) like a Chinese.
-eleventen(eleven ten);
2011-10-19
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You can reply: "You have not seen many Chinese, Do you?"
-ding_ding(丁_丁);
2011-10-19
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这点,不确定。而且觉得这么回复有些挑衅的意味在里面,毕竟人家没恶意。
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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forget it, of course your boss saying that was inappropriate, i believe he is nice person as you mentioned and did not mean it.If i were you , i may simply reply: "oh yeah?" or "why?" and then turn to other topic, then he will never say that again for sure.
-sr-71(I Would If I Could);
2011-10-19
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我的回复就是:oh really? 然后就开始谈其他的事了。本来以为过去了,没想到今早他们又开始说这件事。
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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按我的理解,你的老板是在TEASING你。以表示与你的亲近。最好的回答是:Thanks for your encouraging comments. 他的潜台词是:中国人开车都很有NICE。可你开车象个"小辣椒"。
-bushunyan(第三只眼);
2011-10-19
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+1
-walkalong(汉家儿郎);
2011-10-19
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呃……我理解teasing是“笑话”的意思?
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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逗你玩儿,有逗趣儿,有逗气儿,有逗闷儿。。。听起来,正面的玩笑居多。你要是骂回去他可就郁闷了。
-walkalong(汉家儿郎);
2011-10-19
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没骂、没骂。
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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男跟女TEASING,是打情骂俏的意思。你不好好回他,是你不解风情。
-bushunyan(第三只眼);
2011-10-19
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噢,天哪,他都能做我爷爷了,我要是解他的风情才是有毛病……
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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你看,这件事已从隐形语言歧视,向"癞蛤蚂想吃天鹅肉,老牛要吃嫩草"方向转化了。其实,你本可以好好逗一逗他的。
-bushunyan(第三只眼);
2011-10-19
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我从来都不解风情,好的不解坏的也不解,挺好,很安全。:-)
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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我还被老板和同事说过我不像是在中国受过教育呢 :)。。 没啥,某种程度上是一种恭维。。因为中国人给人的映像就是谨小慎微,缺少大气。。
-snow_bird(sunshine);
2011-10-19
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depends, especial when you calculate something easy wrong.
-eleventen(eleven ten);
2011-10-19
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right, that depends :)。They mean the way I handle things.
-snow_bird(sunshine);
2011-10-19
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我倾向于你这种理解。
-bigmouthman(天生口大);
2011-10-19
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即使是恭维,听后还是感觉不舒服~~~~
-dong3213(住在肥皂泡里的牛);
2011-10-19
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没有必要总是觉得有人在欺负你。最多,欺负回去就是了。
-bushunyan(第三只眼);
2011-10-19
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冤冤相报何时了?~~~~:P~~~~
-dong3213(住在肥皂泡里的牛);
2011-10-19
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取决于当时的语言环境和状况。。。是在我处理了一个比较tough的事情后说的,对我个人是一种恭维,但也侧面反映了他们对中国人的印象。但我告诉他们我是在中国受的教育。。当时没感觉好,也没感觉不舒服。。就像是客观的讨论一件事一样。。
-snow_bird(sunshine);
2011-10-19
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那就是我开车太大大咧咧了?老头不是怕我撞坏他的A8吧,哈哈哈。
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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夸你个人车技好, 有贬低整体中国人之嫌 :)... 其实他们一般说这话没有褒贬的意思, 只是想表达看到的跟他们印象中的大多数不太一样而已..笑笑就过去了...
-snow_bird(sunshine);
2011-10-19
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I won't take it as compliments. He may want to show his kindness, but not the right way.
-littlebird09(小小鸟);
2011-10-19
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+1~~~~
-dong3213(住在肥皂泡里的牛);
2011-10-19
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按我的理解,他当时的意思是我倒车做的非常漂亮,干脆利落。那就直说我车技好就行了,非要加一句”不像中国人开车“,让我觉得他非常不齿甚至是瞧不起中国人的开车技术,所以心里很不舒服。
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-19
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understood. This type of comments makes people feel sort of discrimination, he may does not mean it though.
-littlebird09(小小鸟);
2011-10-19
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it depends on the situation and what kind of person he is.
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-19
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