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枫下家园 / 人到中年 / 人到中年, is there anybody else expect 彪妹and me who also believes in true love?
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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哇塞。。。。是不是要地震啊。。。。这么反常。。。。
-tigar25(大忽悠);
2011-10-4
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上班,下班's post, just feel people became so SHIGU, not romantic at all, sad<<<<<<
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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娃都几个了,TRUE不TRUE有什么关系?有必要考虑的时候在来考虑. 当然最好是没必要.
-hostler("青蛙在煮锅里的);
2011-10-4
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几个??
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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不好意思,是说我.
-hostler("青蛙在煮锅里的);
2011-10-4
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just curous, how many do you have? is it hard for you to handle?
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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no difficulty at all to handle kids. The point is that I already passed that stage in my life...For sure I thought about this question, but it was two decades ago. I belived in true love, and already have results. It is hard for me to rethink it today unless... does it make sense?
-hostler("青蛙在煮锅里的);
2011-10-4
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i am very happy you put me together with you. you know me, thank you~!
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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you are perfect in my eye>>>>>>>
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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no i am very imperfect, but i am still very happy that I can give you such a nice impression! you made my day~~!
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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这就谈上了。。。。?
-tigar25(大忽悠);
2011-10-4
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谈 what?
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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生意。。。。?
-tigar25(大忽悠);
2011-10-4
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Define before derive -- what do you mean by "true love"?
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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为了和他/她在一起,心甘情愿的做丫环或者活计。
-c1xwy(洪兴罩俺去战斗);
2011-10-4
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maybe.....the willingness of sacrifice?
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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conditionally or unconditionally?
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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for me, it's unconditionallyno matter you believe it or believe it not.
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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Bravo -- you are genuine.:-)
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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because she has a lovable husband:-)
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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Presumably every husband was lovable in the first place.... if then either side starts gauging the other side's "lovability" to determine her/his commitment - the "love" is not "true" and won't last.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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There are deep love and shallow love. Deep love usually involves unconditional sacrifice and lasts much longer.
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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Sure -- when someone is not in "true love", excuses are handy everywhere.:-)
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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you feel happy being with him everday, you are willing to do whatever to make both of you happy, and most important, you don't feel you are scraficing anything >>>>>>>>>and he feel exactly the same way
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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"most important, you don't feel you are scraficing anything" -- so very well said!
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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I hope the last sentence wasn't posed as an condition.:-) Otherwise, everything would become a "chicken-or-egg-first" game.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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first...what is true love?
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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i do. I still believe : with true love, you are willing to sacrifice whenever needed
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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.. and when you decide not to sacrifice any more -- you can easily get away by disclaiming that the love has faded. :-)
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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it is true that love can fade...but it doesn't affect the truth that true love can make people sacrifice...
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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welcome on board~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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这船上的人越来越多啊,可喜可贺。。。
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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Should recount after some head winds. :-)
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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i do~~~~~~
-dong3213(住在肥皂泡里的牛);
2011-10-4
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I am happy we are on the same page>>>>>>>:
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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welcome on board~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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believing in truth love是个神话,就像相信共产主义一样。
-superintendent(移民的孙悟空super);
2011-10-4
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me ~ i believe ~ ~
-sr-71(I Would If I Could);
2011-10-4
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welcome on board~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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凭着这一张旧船票,终于登上你这破船 ~~~ ;)
-sr-71(I Would If I Could);
2011-10-4
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I AM NOT 破, YOU 破
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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LOL ~
-sr-71(I Would If I Could);
2011-10-4
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以理科思维,NO。以文科思维,YES。以神的思维,都是群小动物在瞎闹腾。
-linhaixueyuan(林海雪原);
2011-10-4
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so, based on yours, does it exist?
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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先说明一下,人到中年,要能从多个面看问题。所谓的 true love 在一个的层面,她是存在的。在另一些层面,她是虚枉的。
-linhaixueyuan(林海雪原);
2011-10-4
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Too diplomatic...you dodge the question again...:)
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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true love 是自己内心的一种信念,和true love的对象关系不大。结论是:无论有没有true love的对象,或者true love的对象是谁都不影响true love的信念。
-jqe(行长);
2011-10-4
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make sense to me >>>>>>>>>>>>>:
-dang_dang(当当);
2011-10-4
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"我爱你,和你无关" type of thing?
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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+1, 在这个世界里有很多很多爱情至上主义者同时又是婚姻悲观主义者 ~ ~
-sr-71(I Would If I Could);
2011-10-4
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+2~~~
-dong3213(住在肥皂泡里的牛);
2011-10-4
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没有true love的对象,即便有true love的信念,又去实施在哪呢?我这里不是指的那种共产主义的大爱
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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it is about love the idea of love...nothing to do with love...:)
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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we are talking about different ways of love then......
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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It is just my understanding of "true love 是自己内心的一种信念,和true love的对象关系不大"...not my opinion...
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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信念被实施了,才可得到升华
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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Yes, "true love" has to be unilateral, and non-pragmatic -- it may seem silly, but that's what "true" is about.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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This is called ...stalker....
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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A stalker doesn't sacrifice -- a stalker demands. That's the difference.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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A stalker would do anything you want him/her to do, if you let him/her...it's unilateral....
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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Stalking and "true love" don't have to be mutually-exclusive then, I guess.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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unilateral love sometimes is scary. It is disturbing......
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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Yes...I called it a stalker behavior...:) Some parents do that to their children...
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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my daughter called me stalker a while ago:-)
-fly_universe(飞越时空);
2011-10-4
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That's still "true love". "True love" doesn't necessarily commands a reward.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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"Love" and "desire to own" are so fundamentally different -- it's unfortunate that you can't tell. Doing things against someone's will - that's not "sacrifice".
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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what is sacrifice?...if you are willingly doing something you love to do but not for yourself, does it mean you are scarifying for someone else?
-jesse_dd(紫飞鱼);
2011-10-4
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If it's for the good of the one you love -- yes. If it's aimed at getting something back in return, then it may not.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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When the two unilateral "true loves" meet and match -- this may not always happen -- it becomes MUTUAL "true love". If one uses "mutuality" as a pre-condition, s/he likely can never get there.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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true love makes sense if 对象s are our children.
-leisurelywalk(悠闲);
2011-10-5
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I believe
-littlebird09(小小鸟);
2011-10-4
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welcome on board~
-lilianliang(彪妹);
2011-10-4
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Thank you ... happy to be on your boat :-)))))))))))))))
-littlebird09(小小鸟);
2011-10-4
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True love, 可遇不可求啊。。。有多少人是幸运儿呢。。。
-snow_bird(sunshine);
2011-10-4
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你指的被动true love, 我相信楼主说的是主动地true love. 相信别人但是更相信自己。
-jqe(行长);
2011-10-4
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那被动的还叫true love 吗?
-snow_bird(sunshine);
2011-10-4
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三天不打,上房揭瓦。说的就是你们
-alones12(大风中的承诺);
2011-10-4
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:-). 不怕911
-hostler("青蛙在煮锅里的);
2011-10-4
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true love 在我这年龄是奢侈品,有很多事比true love 来得重要许多
-tyra(Zara);
2011-10-4
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Sounds like a material teen. :-)
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2011-10-4
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ah~~~~~
-tyra(Zara);
2011-10-5
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年轻的时候是,现在想想,谁知道那时候是咋回事呀,学问太大,人这一百多斤,琢磨不透!
-jameschen6(梦想农庄-雨水多好);
2011-10-4
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ture love is like true lie, it's there everyday, but how long it lasts is another issue...
-alesis(大仙);
2011-10-5
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不知道true love应该是不是什么都不计较的去love,ta说true love应该包容一切,我也说过true love不care那张纸,可是有时候还是觉得心里有点不舒服,这算是true love吗。中年人还会为了true love等若干年吗。
-abcdefg09(hi);
2011-10-5
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