In his post " ...When I was young and in school, I never caused any trouble.. I wanted to make my parents happy and proud..", ..我认为我也是这样的, 按父母的意愿做了一些当时不愿意的是(比如考研, 毕业分配等). 还有当你爱一个人的时候, 你一定不想让对方失望, 所以我们就会尽最大的努力去讨好TA, 这个我也觉得挺正常的. SO When we please others, it does not necessarily mean we lost ourselves. ...... BUT I agree when we please others, 必须要有度, 否则这种PLEASE 就会是对方的包袱.