Do you have to admire before you love, or do you have to love before you admire? Or are these two independent concepts? Is it necessary to expect/demand both from your spouse? :-)
“To love is to admire with the heart. To admire is to love with the mind” - Theophile Gautier
“To love is to admire with the heart. To admire is to love with the mind” - Theophile Gautier