本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛When the nurse apologized for the pain caused by a blood test needle, I was very surprised and wondered whether she was being disingenuous; but later I found they really meant it. It was amazing to watch the way Westerners reacted to pain and how widely and casually they used painkillers.
I found pain very intriguing and complex.
In the year 2000, we went to Mexico and visited a museum with some famous Frida Kahlo paintings. I was shocked. That was the first time I saw her works and they registered with me right away. I could literally feel her pain, her bleeding heart, her struggle, her helplessness and her craving for life. The painting with two hearts and two Fridas took me back to my own experience of serious emotional pain many years ago. I remembered I drifted into sleep after hours of crying and total exhaustion. Half asleep and half awake, I felt my heart was full of tears and overflowed to those many tubes connecting the heart, only found more to come. That image of pain was so visceral just like her paintings.
When there is no way for me to escape pain, I started watching, feeling and sometimes even enjoying pain.
Pain is too simple a word, it is also too limited and lacks specificity to explain the sensation in its extreme. It can be as sharp as a knife cutting the skin; it can be a dull throb that you can’t identify but get used to living with.
I started looking into the other side of pain after I read about alternative healing. It says that our unspoken fears create blocks or crimps in the body's energy flow, and it's these blocks that ultimately result in problems and show up mostly as pain. By focusing our attention on the pain and trying to feel it as much as possible, we can determine its exact location. Instead of ignoring it, covering it up or killing it, we can follow the pain into our bodies and minds like a beacon and found out the real cause.
Is it our imbalance, blockage of energy flow, faulty expectation, fear, loneliness, discontent, insecurity, denial or weakness?
Only after we seek out the cause, can we cure the problem and prevent it from reoccurring. The same is true with relationships. Denying what happened, getting a replacement of “love” immediately, shifting our attention to something else or shutting down most of our senses are the most common painkillers for treating a painful relationship problem or breakup. Some of them have negative side effects. For example, a quick replacement covers up the pain but only brings more in the future; a series of failures can destroy one’s faith in love and denying the past only confuses us more.
So?
So use painkillers with discretion. They can only kill the pain but doesn’t resolve the problem. Instead, feel it; it is an important dialogue between our body and soul. Look deeper; find the true cause and work on it. This is the only way that we can find relief from long lasting pain and prevent future episodes from occurring.
A healthy life should be pain free and full of joy.
Thanks for reading.
January 2, 2004 Hawaii
Coming...
爱情新解（8) Life integration
爱情新解（9）Our little life更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
I found pain very intriguing and complex.
In the year 2000, we went to Mexico and visited a museum with some famous Frida Kahlo paintings. I was shocked. That was the first time I saw her works and they registered with me right away. I could literally feel her pain, her bleeding heart, her struggle, her helplessness and her craving for life. The painting with two hearts and two Fridas took me back to my own experience of serious emotional pain many years ago. I remembered I drifted into sleep after hours of crying and total exhaustion. Half asleep and half awake, I felt my heart was full of tears and overflowed to those many tubes connecting the heart, only found more to come. That image of pain was so visceral just like her paintings.
When there is no way for me to escape pain, I started watching, feeling and sometimes even enjoying pain.
Pain is too simple a word, it is also too limited and lacks specificity to explain the sensation in its extreme. It can be as sharp as a knife cutting the skin; it can be a dull throb that you can’t identify but get used to living with.
I started looking into the other side of pain after I read about alternative healing. It says that our unspoken fears create blocks or crimps in the body's energy flow, and it's these blocks that ultimately result in problems and show up mostly as pain. By focusing our attention on the pain and trying to feel it as much as possible, we can determine its exact location. Instead of ignoring it, covering it up or killing it, we can follow the pain into our bodies and minds like a beacon and found out the real cause.
Is it our imbalance, blockage of energy flow, faulty expectation, fear, loneliness, discontent, insecurity, denial or weakness?
Only after we seek out the cause, can we cure the problem and prevent it from reoccurring. The same is true with relationships. Denying what happened, getting a replacement of “love” immediately, shifting our attention to something else or shutting down most of our senses are the most common painkillers for treating a painful relationship problem or breakup. Some of them have negative side effects. For example, a quick replacement covers up the pain but only brings more in the future; a series of failures can destroy one’s faith in love and denying the past only confuses us more.
So?
So use painkillers with discretion. They can only kill the pain but doesn’t resolve the problem. Instead, feel it; it is an important dialogue between our body and soul. Look deeper; find the true cause and work on it. This is the only way that we can find relief from long lasting pain and prevent future episodes from occurring.
A healthy life should be pain free and full of joy.
Thanks for reading.
January 2, 2004 Hawaii
Coming...
爱情新解（8) Life integration
爱情新解（9）Our little life更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net